EXCITE YOUR WOMAN AND MAKE HER SQUIRT
A Pussy
massage or Yoni massage is what excites a woman…well
this woman anyway!
Do you know how to give a good
pussy massage? If you don't you absolutely need to read this. It might change your sex life forever. Never been able to make your woman squirt? Start by a sensual pussy massage and you just might achieve your goal!
HOW TO DO A PUSSY MASSAGE FROM THE PRACTICE OF TANTRA
(Just a note that the word Yoni is a tantric word for pussy in the following introduction.)
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| Massage the pussy slowly |
Pussy massage is amazing and is mainly used as a foreplay technique.
The Yoni Approaching Eros: There is No Time Not to Go Slowly
We are all going everywhere so fast these days. It is time to slow down. The thing I hear most from women is that they wish for sex to slow down. Slower approach, slower touch, more touch, more savoring.
In slowing down there is the potential for more sensation per square millimeter, so that less can truly be more. Going slow offers the possibility of micro sensations, worlds within worlds of tiny waves of sensation and vibration. Going slow also offers us the possibility to get in touch with and experience our hunger, to be really and truly ready to be touched on our genitals and/or entered.
This assignment is about covering a small amount of ground in twice the amount of time. It is about taking the time to let it unfold, about building heat and hunger and not skipping over any of the really delightful parts.
This practice is about not going anywhere and getting everywhere.
For the giver it is a practice of working the sensitivity of your fingertips and awakening your senses, noticing how your partner is responding. It requires that you not go into your own turn on or rhythm, but that you stay with the tempo and rhythm of your partner. It is also a practice of learning the joy of being in-service to your partner's pleasure, which in turn requires sustained openness to learning. This level of being in tune and present in the moment is a muscle that can be trained.
SLOW DOWN
For those of you receiving it is also a practice of slowing down--not going for the massive fast strokes that you know might get you off, but working towards generating your turn on and being an active participant. Without forcing or pretending, let your partner know with your breath, sounds and body movements what you are experiencing. Being an active participant with your verbal and non-verbal expression of what pleasures you can itself generate heat and turn on. If you don't trust me, put on some sexy music and grind your hips into a pillow for 5 minutes and notice the effect it has on you.
Slowing down gives us time to notice not only the physical sensations but what is going on for us emotionally. A massage done slowly and precisely with great care can be deeply healing for your partner, especially if she has consciously or unconsciously been rushing herself to be "ready" for penetration most of her sexual life.
So don't be surprised if this massage touches her deeply and brings tears of relief, joy or even grief.
Finally, if you are a woman who struggles with trying to have orgasms or having more satisfying orgasms, a slow precise massage which focuses on fully feeling sensation can build your sexual energy so that you have enough charge to orgasm, and so that your orgasm is fuller and more satisfying.
ASSIGNMENT
This is for a person with a Pussy and her partner.
You will need:
A warm comfortable space,
Water-based lubricant
Gloves if applicable
Time: At least 90 minutes for this assignment.
Overview
1. Connecting With The Beloved: Getting connected includes communicating with our love or play partner our wishes, desires and intentions for the session, and also hearing the same from him/her. We may also spend some time in silence, eye-gazing or holding each other.
2. Coming Into the Body: Delicious full body massage mixing deep work, light touch, shoulder massage, hands, feet, scalp or whatever else she loves for a warm up. Pelvic Breathing should be encouraged. Female arousal is generated in part by the hormone Oxytocin, which floods the body with a sense of warmth and well-being. Oxytocin is released and peaks through skin-to-skin contact.
3. Waking Up the Neighborhood: Awakening the feelings of arousal. For most women this starts not at the genitals but over the sensitive parts of the whole body. Slow, light or gliding touch on the back, belly, neck, face, inner elbows and knees, inner thighs, butt. Find out what she likes and just how slow....
4. Unfolding the Flower: Gradual approach to the yoni, cupping with or without rocking and vibrations, light tickling, gentles caresses, exploring the labia. A slow approach, which does not demand immediate opening or wetness. Continuing where Waking the Neighborhood left off, this is a slow tease into arousal.
5. Magic Button: Starting with the lightest tickle, exploring the entire region of the clitoris. The tempo, depth, length, direction, directness and rhythm of the strokes here is both specific to each woman and to any given day. What works one day might not work the next. A tip: Follow her lead.
6. The Temple: From the gateway to the canal and inside, the goddess spot, pressing, thrusting up to fisting. The many ways to be inside.
7. Climax, Aftershocks, Stillness, Reconnection.
Your assignment is to give (or receive) a sensual massage that includes the external genitals and focuses on Steps 1- 5 of this progression with the greatest focus on Step 3, Waking up the Neighborhood.
Take your time. Pay attention.
As the Giver:
Open your heart and allow yourself to feel tender. Communicate this tenderness though your touch.
While giving, watch her face and body for small movements and changes in color or temperature. Notice if her pelvis rocks towards you, away from you or side to side and follow her lead. It may be subtle. Invite her feedback. Encourage breath, movement and sound. If you notice you feel like you should be getting to the next step or if you are afraid to go to the next step breath and notice how she is responding. If you feel completely in the dark, ask her what she is experiencing.
As the Receiver:
Be an active receiver. Breath, move and make sounds. Let your partner know when they are touching you in a pleasurable way.
Notice your level of arousal what is most arousing?
What is least arousing?
What would you like more of?
What would you like less of?
Letting your partner know what you would like more of (as opposed to focusing on what might not be working) is a great way to get more of what you want. Above all, allow yourself to ask your partner to go slower (tempo or approach) if you wish and be patient. It takes time and focus to learn to go slow.
At the end of the massage:
Whether you choose to have an orgasm or not be sure to take the time to share how it was for each of you.
What parts were fun?
Exciting?
Challenging?
What did you learn?
About yourself?
About your partner?
The Yoni in pleasure teaches again and again: There is no time like the now. There has never been any other time but now. Forget everything you think you know and listen to the truth of the present moment. If you take the time to let it unfold, it will and it will be LUSH.
To Enjoy giving PLEASURE is to receive PLEASURE!
The pussy or yoni massage is your free pass to ultimate pleasure!
I for one would totally do anything to pleasure a guy who would take the time to massage my cute little pussy. I'm sure if he does it right he would get me to squirt! We all love a
good squirt now don't we!
Give and you shall receive!
Happy massaging!
Yes, you will have to lie. No going around it. So put your poker face on and practice your speech in the mirror. "Yeah I have a girlfriend, we met online a few weeks ago. She is amazing. I see her bearing my children. We met a few times and it was electric, unfortunately she had to leave town to spend Christmas with her family. I’m sad but I’m comforted by the fact that I’m not alone anymore."
